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Thursday, 24 December 2015

Potty training regression - the horror returns

Thursday, 24 December 2015 - 0 Comments

First of all, no matter what they say, don’t comfort your kid and for God’s sake don’t punish him. Just accept the potty training regression like it’s something normal.

 So you finally got your loved one to sit on the potty and do her thing. The first couple of ups and downs and you think you are in the deep. But a few weeks later all your effort and sacrifice goes down the drain when the underwear ends up wet one day out of the blue. Or, even worse, out of the brown.

 Like they say in all survival kits, first of all, don’t panic. Don’t make a fuss out of this; you will make it just worse. Try not to start comforting your kid because it gives him the sense that something tragic has happened. He may be sad, scared, surprised but you are the one to lead him from there. You get to decide what he feels. If you start shouting “Hang in there, boy, it’s nothing really, be brave, walk with me and I’ll hold your hand” in a tear suppressing voice, it’s a big red flag in his eyes. You will make it even more difficult for him to forget what happened.

 And the worst thing you can possibly do is being angry with him. Do you really think he wants to do it? He did it on purpose? Why don’t you try it, then?

 Then why did he do it? It’s not really something fun to do. It can be one of the following reasons. You pick your category and act accordingly.
  1. She got a brother or a sister. Every child needs attention, and let’s face it, a baby needs a lot more attention than a 3 year old. She can eat by herself, get dressed most of the times, take her own potty and the baby can’t. It’s nothing out of ordinary if she stops doing what she usually does. And it won’t necessarily be potty training regression; it can be any other kind of regression, asking for bottle, refusing to get dressed on her own or something similar. That’s where we get back to comforting. Resist the urge to do it. It’s not that you are cruel. It’s just refusing to reinforce the bad behavior. You are basically telling her she’s getting your attention the right way by wetting her pants. And the same goes to punishing or negative response. She’ll take the bad publicity if she can’t get the good. Don’t give her that either. Just start potty training fresh and she will soon catch up where she left. And find some time to spend with the older one, surely there is a way to spare hour or two every day.
  2. Starting the daycare. That is the biggest stress your kid can have apart from illness or a death in the family. She gets separated from mommy and daddy for the longest time in her life in a completely strange environment. And she needs her safety back so she sends and SOS signal into her undies. Mommy comes urgently and takes her home. It’s a win. And all you can do is ask the daycare lady to be patient and do your best to get to the right track as soon as possible on the “back at home” front line battling the potty training regression.
  3. He wasn’t potty trained in the first place. Now that’s your fault. Parents put up with a lot of pressure from grannies and grandpas, other parents and TV. The stories of 6 months old babies fully potty trained make them rush the thing up too much. And the first day the child spends without an accident is instantly considered to be the first day in a life of a potty trained child. But it isn’t so, not by a long shot. And living in a lie never helped anyone. Just try to relax and don’t let them get to you. It will happen when it happens, and guess what – other people lie to you and themselves too.
  4. No night potty readiness. This may be a part of the previous point. There are a lot of kids who hold themselves perfectly during the day but just can’t make it through the night. This can last for months, so you just have to be patient.
  5. Having too much fun. Sometimes they just don’t have the time for such timewasters like going to the bathroom. It’s too boring, and the new train is REALLY fun. Nothing to worry about. The feeling of being wet will probably make them go the next time.
  6. Urinary tract infection. You can find all about it HERE . You must do the urine test; your doctor will order those probably. If your child has high fever and wetting the pants, the odds are you are facing an infection. If you can’t wait for the results, take a look at the urine sample you took. If it’s blurry and has some cloudy parts in it, it’s from the antibodies which are produced due to the infection.
    The good news your kid's potty training regression isn't really regression.
  7. Taking strong antibiotics. Sometimes, after taking the medicine to get rid of some heavy infection like lung infection or bronchitis, the production of urine goes up. The child can’t control it anymore and you have a false potty training regression.
  8. Constipation and diarrhea. Obviously, a kid with diarrhea can’t control his urge either. Just remember when you had it yourself, you almost lost it too, isn’t it right? And something like that happens with constipation. It can hurt the kid and make going to the potty a really unpleasant experience. When the stool is hard, large or even spiky, the child may avoid going to the bathroom on purpose. If you see some small parts of feces around a big rock, you have yourself a kid with the constipation. Some greasy soup and other natural and over the counter and prescribed medications will help.
  9. If the kid has got the rash down under, it will make it harder to urinate, even painful. This can cause them to postpone it until they lose control. The treatment consists of treating the rash with some barrier ointments.

As you can see, 6-9 are all false potty training regressions. All of them are medical reasons which go away when the medical conditions that caused it are solved. As for 1-5, all it takes is a little patience (or a lot of patience) and all your trouble will be forgotten. In a few years you won’t even mention it.

Tuesday, 18 August 2015

The Best Diet for Children is No Diet At All.

Tuesday, 18 August 2015 - 0 Comments

The Best Diet for Children is No Diet At All.

Many parents wonder what constitutes a healthy diet for children. It is natural that, when the child is obese or overweight, to become concerned. We want to protect our child from the immediate consequences like social discrimination and low self-esteem.
Even the only slightly overweight child will sometimes not be invited to a party or be left out of a game. For the little ones it can cause sadness and tears and for the teenager, who usually wants nothing more then being accepted by his or her peer group, it can cause more serious problems like bulimia and anorexia.
While the best cure for all these problems is prevention, there are lots of things you can do to help your child. Changing the diet of the whole family is better than to concentrate on a diet for children.
One thing to do is to listen carefully to your child and find out which physical activity appeals to her or him. Try your very best to get them to participate in team sports.
Basketball, swimming, field hockey and football are all fast moving sports, but bike riding, walking and just plain running around with the neighborhood kids is great. Involving the whole family in whatever the child is doing is a great help. Often time is a factor, and we all have to do the best we can.
Limiting TV, computer time, and video games is necessary. Maybe a pet that needs to be walked every day is another idea.
It is not easy to get your child to eat a healthy diet. Children love junk food because everybody else is eating it. Setting a good example by eating healthy yourself is the hardest part of all.
There is great confusion about what constitutes a healthy diet for children. Advertisers constantly bombard them with mostly unhealthy choices.
You as a parent need to be informed about good nutrition and diet for children. Children need plenty of carbohydrates for energy and growth, but not all carbohydrates are the same.
If you are confused about carbohydrates in the diet for children you are not alone.
A brief history of carbohydrates will explain why some carbohydrates are a better choice in the diet for children than others.
Throughout early history, the only carbohydrates available were wild roots, tubers, fruits, and vegetables that people foraged for. These foods where loaded with fiber and nutrients, and they were slowly digested and absorbed, to provide a slow release, sustained form of energy.
When people turned to agriculture they learned to cultivate grains. These foods became mainstays of peoples diet. They were consumed in their natural unprocessed form, coarsely ground and made into porridges and baked into whole grain breads.
Two hundred years ago high speed mills where invented and we where introduced to fine ground flour with most of the fibrous bran and nutritious germ removed. What is left is the quickly digested fine white flours we eat in breads, cake mixes, pretzels and other highly processed food.
In recent years new technologies for processing grain like puffing, extruding and flaking have been used to make breakfast foods, "quick cooking" and "instant" foods. The consumption of sugar in the diet for children is at an all time high and serving sizes of refined carbohydrates have constantly grown.
This deluge of quickly digested carbohydrates represents much of what is wrong with today's children’s diet. These over processed foods lack the fiber and nutrients so necessary in a healthy diet, and are very quickly digested, rapidly raise the blood sugar level, followed by a rise of insulin in the blood stream. About two hours later the child feels hungry again, since what she ate is lacking in nutrients and fiber.
For children it is hard to overcome bad eating habits. They need all the help they can get. Most of what your child eats depends on what you bring home from the grocery store. Try not to buy foods prepackaged, and high in sugar and fat. Keep in mind that high fiber foods in a childs diet make the child feel full longer and aid in digestion.
Here are some more suggestions:
Carefully and slowly cut down on the amount of fat and calories in your family's diet.
Avoid using food as reward or punishment.
Plan for healthy snacks.
Aim to eat 5 servings of fruit and vegetables each day.
Children should drink lots of water and low fat or fat free milk after the age of two.
Avoid soft drinks, even diet and sport drinks.
Discourage eating snacks while watching TV.
Don't place your child on a restrictive diet.
A really obese child might benefit from diet camp. The good ones teach children about motivation and nutrition.
They can do wonders for an obese child

Monday, 6 October 2014

Games to play while concisework potty training

Monday, 6 October 2014 - 0 Comments

Games to play while concisework potty training

Hit the fish (boys only) 
Put a paper or plastic fish into the potty and let your boy hit it with his firehose. He'll enjoy watching it squirming like it's alive. 

Fill the boat. (boys and girls) 
Make a paper boat and let it float in the water. Then make another rerun of Titanic when a storm hits it from above. 

Stand up, sit down
Just make sure that the potty wont spill and stay firm on the ground.

Digestive fun
Together, each of you use a finger to draw an imaginary line from your mouth to your tummy to the parts of your body that excrete waste. Or, each of you draw a picture of the food you ate today disappearing into your mouth and coming out the other end.

Flushing colors
When it's done and the product of your effort is in the toilet, flush it together. The fun starts when you add some watercolors to the side of the toilet and flush.

Path often taken
Create a fun path to the potty or the bathroom together that your child will love to follow.

Spongebob me
When you are taking a bath, explain to your child that we are like a sponge. First we drink water, then we squeeze a little then the water comes out. 

First seven days rules.

First seven days rules.

  1. If your kid didn't have dry nights before you started concisework potty training, you can put the nappies on after she's fallen asleep. That way she won't be aware she has it on, and it'll keep her dry and safe from the colds and infections. 
  2. When you take them off, don't put them on, no matter how excuse - convenient the circumstances might be. If you do, the kid will forget everything she's learned so far and all your efforts will be in vain. Hence all the secrecy with the night diaper.
  3. The first time you take them off let her dance around in her panties, play some music and dance with her. She will be relieved of the burden for sure, because no child likes diapers. They prevent natural movement and cause friction with the skin. I promise you, the kid will be screaming with joy once you remove them and leave her free for the first time. 
  4. Stay at home. Try not to go out for too long the first seven days. Organize the life so that she's not bored at home. The next part is all about the games you can play while potty training. 
  5. Offer them the potty every half an hour. After the first week you will gradually extend the period so that by the end of the month you will have a two hour breaks between the potty and by the end of the second month your child will be able to inform you when he wants to go. 
  6. Morning whizz. After a long night, the risk of accident is the highest in the morning. So as soon as she wakes up, run for the potty.
Part 5 > What you must know before you start potty training

Before the P day

Before the P day

On Potty day you will lose all the diapers. Make a big deal out of taking the unused diapers (but not all of them for you will need them during the night for a while) to the trash bin. Let your kid throw them away and celebrate the moment with dancing a little jig and laughing a lot.
But before this day it's important to prepare the ground. Talk a lot about who goes to the bathroom and who does their thing in the nature. Make an example of elder brothers, sisters or cousins. If no one is around try watching some of the videos we'll suggest further along the method.
Go shopping with your child. Take your kid to buy some undies, at least thirty of them for they will get soiled during the first couple of days and you have to be prepared. Also, let him choose the potty, preferably the singing one (when the fluid contacts the surface of the potty, the music starts).
Go shopping on your own. Buy half a dozen of your favorite toys. For instance, if he's into Thomas The Tank Engine, buy some of those engines he doesn't already have. They will be used in "the Bribery" part of the method.

All is fair in love, war and potty training

You've probably been told that bribing your child into doing something won't end up well. Sure, it can lead to him expecting you to reward every little thing that he does well, but this one is different. It's not little thing, it's HUGE. Remember, you'll make a really big deal of every success he has, even if it means making a scene in public lavatory. Think about it this way, if someone offered you a magic wand for 39.99 which will make your potty training a lot easier, wouldn't you jump in and buy it right away? I'm sure a vast majority of parents would do this in a heartbeat. 
So every time number two lands into the potty, Thomas puffs into the room. Don't you think this would mean a lot to any child? Can you imagine a greater stimulation? Of course, you'll need to find out what YOUR kid really likes, as they all have a different favorite. 

Another blasphemy, let them watch cartoons for an hour if it means they'll sit on the potty that long. Sometimes, your kid will need some time to find the inspiration to do the deed. Most of them won't be able to sit for that long, so you need to have an ace up your sleeve. Let them use toys, water, playdoh, let them do whatever it takes to stay sitting for a while. Some children feel afraid or disgusted when they see the potty. Playing around with it will make it seem more benevolent. 
If nothing happens even after waiting for a long time don't be disappointing. Even if accident happens a minute after she stood up from the potty, keep calm, don't sound irritated or yell. Don't be too supportive and laugh it off either. Show a mild disappointment and encouragement: "Ooh, nothing happened. That's too bad, but next time you'll do it rrright in the potty, isn't it so?".
Part 6 > Games to play when potty training

Timing is crucial

Timing is crucial

You should choose the time to start concisework potty training carefully. It's impossible, understandably, to wait for the perfect conditions to get into constellation, but it will be a lot easier if you manage to squeeze into this list.

- Start in summer. It's warm then and she can walk freely in her undies. Also, if accident happen, it's unlikely that she'll catch a cold from being wet. 
- Pick the time when you are not too busy. If you must stay at work late, or have some other things to take care of which will be too time consuming, better postpone the whole deal for some other time.
- Make sure that you've passed through "no" or denial phase. Trying to learn anything when all you hear is "I won't" is pretty useless. 
- Also, having in mind that you'll need the nerves of steel, make sure that you don't pick the time when you feel stressed about something.

Part 4> The rules of concisework potty training

So, what IS the right time?

So, what IS the right time?

The correct answer is  - you need to find it out on your own. You have probably been told this before, but unfortunately this is the only way. It's not easy at all to figure out when is the right time to start. Every child is unique, but here are some guidelines to help you

Is your child:

Able to walk, and even run, steadily.

Urinates at least half teacup at one time.

Poos regularly and at predictable time.

Has "dry" periods of at least two hours or during naps, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Can sit down quietly in one position for two minutes and play at one place for half an hour.

Can pull his pants up and down.

Hates the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.

Wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear.

Gives a physical or verbal sign when he's having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.

Takes pride in his good deeds.

Isn't resistant to learning.

Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Can follow simple instructions, such as "stand up", "sit down", "bring me xyz" etc.

Has words for urine or stool.

If you have less than 3 "no", you can go ahead and try getting used to using potty.

Part 3> The secrets of Concisework Potty Training

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